You have emails to read, reports to write, appraisals to prepare for, clients to see, meetings to attend, KPIs to achieve, business podcasts to listen to, deadlines to meet and an increasing list of additional ad-hoc tasks stacking up against you demanding your attention. At the same time you’re thinking about that difficult colleague you need to speak to, how you need to book your car in for its MOT, the food shop you need to do for friends coming over, what you’re going to cook, whether you can afford that trip away, the housework, the gym, the bills, the family…
With all of these thoughts going on, how on Earth can you stay focussed?!
TalentSmart conducted research with more than a million people, and found that 90% of top performers are skilled at managing their emotions in times of stress in order to remain calm, focussed and in control.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) looks at the way we think about things (neuro), the way we communication both verbally and non verbally (linguistic) and the behavioural patterns we have learned through experience (programming) and how these can be changed to achieve specific goals.
Below are just some examples of how NLP can be used to help business people stay focussed.
Cause and Effect
When we have lots of things going on in our busy day-to-day lives it’s inevitable that not everything will go exactly the way we would like. How we choose to deal with these things determines whether we operate at ‘Cause’ or ‘Effect’.
When something goes wrong, you can choose to:-
a) Fixate on problems, creating negative emotional states, increasing likelihood of stress outcomes, becoming less productive and distracted
b) Concentrate on solutions, creating positive emotional states, increasing feelings of being in control, becoming more proactive and focussed
Fixating on problems will tend to be people who operate at ‘Effect’. They may blame other people or situations for things that happen, often feeling powerless and depending on other people to make them happy or to fix a problem. Their tendency is to wait for things to get better meaning they become a victim of circumstance.
Focussing on solutions means you have choice and operate at ‘Cause’. You are in control of creating the outcomes you want and take responsibility for that. If a situation isn’t as you’d like, you accept the things you can’t change and focus on what you can.
Reframe your perspective
Stress, worry and anxiety are very distracting emotions all too common in a busy working environment and are fuelled by your own interpretation of events. A good habit to stay focussed is to start reframing your perspective of situations.
For example, the statement “I get really frustrated and upset when my boss doesn’t acknowledge all the hard work I’ve been doing. I know they don’t like me” can be reframed by asking the question
“What other meaning could not acknowledging my work have?”
- I get really frustrated and upset when my boss doesn’t acknowledge all the hard work I’ve been doing – And I also know he/she is also very busy and must trust me and think I’m capable to get on with my own work
- The TV broke last night – Which was a great opportunity to catch up on reading
- My friends never call me – They know how busy I am and how often I’m out doing things
- I had to buy a smaller car – Which is going to be a lot cheaper to run, I’ll save lots of money on petrol
So if your colleague says to you “I’ve been asked to do this huge report and I’m already incredibly busy!” – how could you reframe this?
Neurological levels of change
Looking at neurological levels is a fantastic way to start planning how to make positive steps towards being more focussed. These areas of your life will change based on where you are. For example your environment at work is likely to very different to your environment at home.
Think about stepping into your environment at work and then ask yourself:-
- What’s around you?
- Who’s around you?
- What factors about your environment possibly contribute to distraction?
Then step out of that environment and become a fly on the wall looking in. As that fly on the wall, what advice could you offer yourself? Acknowledging the things you can’t control, what CAN you change to make that environment more supportive of you being focussed?
Now step into your behaviour at work and ask yourself:-
- How do you act?
- What do you do?
- What factors about your behaviour possibly contribute to distraction?
Step out of those behaviours and become a fly on the wall looking in. As that fly on the wall, what advice could you offer yourself? What CAN you change to make those behaviours more supportive of you being focussed?
Once you’ve worked through all of these levels, you’ll have a comprehensive and entirely bespoke action plan to implement giving you a powerful way to take control and stay focussed.
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