There is a story doing the rounds on Facebook at the moment that really made me think:

glass half full“A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half… empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?” Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.” It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!” – author unknown

This really reminded me of how important it is to be able to let go of our stresses and not allow them restrict or paralyse us. Being able to identify what is out of alignment is key in allowing those stresses to dissipate.


  • Is it something about your environment that is causing the stress?
  • NLP Neurological LevelsEquipment not in the right place?
  • Haven’t got the space to work properly?

Look at the other neurological levels…


  • Is it something that you are or are not doing that is the problem?
  • Do you not have the correct competence or skills to tackle the thing you are trying to do?
  • Is there something that is going against what is important to you, your values?
  • Is something you are being asked to do contradicting your identity?
  • Does it not fulfill your purpose?

If we can spot which of these areas are out of alignment we can then concentrate on that one area and thus stop the problem being all-encompassing. This then allows us to use our resources to tackle that one area and realign it, thus significantly reducing the stress !

Sound simple – well surprisingly it is! With the right techniques this is something that every one of us can do. And remember when we use our internal resources to tackle something in this way we are strengthening the muscle, allowing the muscle to work independently and smoothly in the future.